While my husband and I were on keeper duty at the Mission Point Lighthouse for two different weekends, four couples became engaged there. My husband witnessed one of them from the gift shop window and told me about it. “I think I just saw a guy ask his girlfriend to marry him… I saw them talking while holding hands, then they hugged awhile and she kept holding out her hand a looking at it.” Sure enough, after a bit they came almost floating into the lighthouse with huge smiles on their faces. More than a few married couples came in the museum and told us this is where they became engaged. What a beautiful backdrop to pop the question while standing on the beach at the lighthouse. There are many more places with vistas yet the best place of all is where it was when the proposal was yours. We asked our readers to share their Marry Me stories… Joe was coming for an extended summer visit from North Carolina and last I’d seen him was in April when I went there for a visit. I was excited for his arrival. I had the 1970’s music on cable because we originally met in the mid seventies when we were teenagers. He had been a summer resident in Northport and I was a local girl. We had no contact over 30 plus years until May of 2012 when we became friends on Facebook due to a mutual friend. He lived far away so I never thought our friendship would develop into knowing we were meant to be together always. So Joe gets to my house and I am so happy. I help him unload his car because he brought gifts of bulk paper products and mayonnaise from Costco. I started to put things in the cupboards and he wandered into the living room. Pretty soon he calls to me, “Hey. Can I tell you a story?” I come in and he motions that I sit on the couch by him and he tells me about the last time he went to Taco Bell—something like: “I order Taco Salad and the lady at the drive through window says ‘Do you want sauce with that?’ And I say yes and I watched her grab a handful out of a bin and toss them in the bag.” At this point Joe stammers, makes a funny noise and puts his hand across his heart and he stands up. I think something bad has happened to the Taco Bell woman. He pulls a baggie from his front pocket saying. “Here are the packets she threw in the bag.” I must have the biggest question mark on my face because he says, “You know Taco Bell sauce packets have sayings on them like conversation hearts.” I said I didn’t (I never get sauce). He continues, “Well, they do, and here are the packets, in the order I pulled them out.” He handed me the first and told me to read them out loud: “I’m up for it if you are.” I noticed that it was cut across the corner and completely flat to which I said –You used them. He replied, Well- yeah! But I rinsed them out. He hands me the second: “If you never do, you’ll never know” “Why say no if you can say yes” At this point I am overcome and think they can’t have one that says… And over it comes to me: “Will you marry me?” I start laughing and crying all at once. He asks, “What does it say?” I exclaim, “It says what I was going to ask you—Will you marry me?” YES & YES we each say and kiss, then I hand them each back in reverse order as I say: Why say no if you can say yes; If you never do, you’ll never know; I’m up for it if you are. We hug for a happy moment and he hands me the final one. What’s this one? I read it and double over laughing and crying and I can’t speak so Joe reveals it by reading: “You have chosen wisely.” Then there is jubilation, and giggling, and smiles, and hugs, and me sharing my amazement at how stealthily he made it happen. He then breaks away from our hug and says “Excuse me for a moment.” I look bewildered and ask, “Where are you going?” He replies, “To shut off the video.” My bewilderment got much bigger. Note about that 70’s music timed to our proposal: I did not notice this at the time but the video is enhanced by this fitting music playing in the background: The First time Ever I Saw Your Face by Roberta Flack was playing while he was telling me his story and It changed to Never My Love by The Association at the moment “Will you marry me” comes up and I say yes. Remember these words from that song: what makes you think love would end when I asked you to spend your whole life with me. LAURA KALCHIK –We are in our fifth year of marriage. My (and Ryan’s) little proposal story… It actually has to start on February 4, 2005 when he passed me a note in sociology class in high school. It read: “Everyone keeps asking if we are dating. We should tell them that we are.” That’s how he asked me to start dating him. Obviously I said yes. So now it’s New Years Eve 2011. I come home from work that evening and he has our dinner made and the table is already set up. In the middle of our dinner he brings up the note from high school. We talked a little about that and then he said he found it! Ryan handed me a folded-up piece of paper. I thought it was so cool he found it. I opened it up and a ring fell out. The note said: “Everyone keeps asking if we are married. We should tell them we are.” He came around the table, grabbed the ring and got down on one knee and officially proposed. I said “Of course! Yes!” We have been together 13 years total and married 6 years in October. CHERI NESBITT I met Steve my junior year in high school— he was a senior and we were in concert choir together. I knew the first time I met him it was love at first sight and I knew he was the man I would marry. We started dating and six months later we were going steady. A year after we had been going together I got my biggest surprise— Steve would always meet me after work and walk me back to my car one day he stopped on the street corner and turned and gave me a "pearl ring," which at that time was the ring given before the engagement ring. He asked me to be his. It was a big Yes. We had been engaged to be engaged (as what they called it then) for two years. Two weeks before he left for the Navy we were going out to a special dinner and dancing. We were both all dressed up and he took me by his parent’s house. While we were there his mom kept hitting him in the arm saying, “Give it to her now. Give it to her now.” So right then in their living room in front of Grandpa, his mom and dad, he got down on one knee and asked me to be his wife and put the diamond on my finger. After hugs we were off to our evening together. Steve left for the Navy (stationed in Long Beach, CA). I left home and moved out to Solana Beach, California so I could see him in between the times he was out to sea. My parents moved to Northport. My sister was in nursing school in Flint, and her fiancé was stationed at the Lockbourne Air Force Base in Ohio. We thought let’s have a double wedding. So with all of us in different states and areas we planned our double wedding in St Johns, Michigan where we were born and raised. Since we had two families and friends we ended up using the Congregational Church that had two aisles and 3 different sitting arrangements which worked beautifully. Friends in the middle and families on each side my dad walked my sister down one aisle and came back and walked me down the other. It was so great. We had a wonderful day and made wonderful memories and we still are 48 years later. STEVE AND KAREN GREGORY Because it was months of “hanging out” before I even considered that Dwayne and I were dating, it took a few more months of “dating” before the subject even came up slightly. We were having breakfast at a late lunch time at Bob Evan’s and I just loved what he was saying and I told him I thought it would be great to grow old with him. About 2 months later we set a date for 5 months later. We definitely didn’t rush it. LOIS MACLEAN I n Michigan in the 80’s, you had the option of adding your spouse to your hunting or fishing license by simply filling out the appropriate section of the license. One January I thought I’d give ice fishing a try and bought myself a fishing license. I asked my girlfriend if she’d be interested in using the spouse portion of my license, and she answered, “If that’s some weird sort of proposal, I accept.” We were married that June. DOUG THATCHER Alex Flanagan and Kate Williams met in the 5th grade. Alex says he knew right away that Kate was The One, and so he sent Kate a note saying “Will you be my girlfriend? Circle YES or NO.” Kate circled YES, but the romance was short-lived. Although Kate and Alex attended the same middle and high schools, they were in different crowds and went in different directions after High School. Fast-forward fifteen years—and they were once again living in the same area, and hanging out with mutual friends. Boom. Romance re-kindled. Alex proposed by taking Kate back to the original scene: the playground outside their 5th grade classroom, where he’d written “Will you marry me?” on the pavement, in chalk. He left chalk on the ground for her answer: YES! The scene was photographed by their 5th grade teacher, Randy Thacker. Thacker had told his students, “Look around. The person you’re going to marry might be sitting in this classroom.” NANCY FLANAGAN (Alex’s mom)
Published by Families First . View All Articles.
This page can be found at http://digital.zoompubs.com/article/Marry+Me%3F+Proposal+Stories/3000917/473009/article.html.